You Can’t Choose Your Family…..

“You Can’t Choose your family but you can choose your friends.”

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I think Tessa would completely agree.  Everything that has gone on in her life and afterlife has proven that exact point.  It made her what she was and I think it made her stronger.  She chose who she wanted around and even attempted to repair a rift or two.  In the end it all came down to who those to have her back when times were rough.

To me this quote rings so true and loud that I’m getting a little reverb from it.  I’m not saying that being family is essentially bad because in all honesty there is a lot of love going on and there are those what will stick with you through thick and thing.  Your friends, on the other hand, they have the harder task.  The CHOOSE to be with you in not just the awesome moments but in the tough times as well.  They know your intricacies, what makes you hurt, and what makes you feel better.  I would do anything for my best friend, even if it is acting a fool creating an alter to a bar of soap (you’re going to have to believe me on this one).

There are certain friends that I have to admit are so close to me that I consider them super family.  I’ve got a few intentional brothers and sisters that I would do anything for and they would go to the moon and back for me if I ever so needed it.  This is not to deface the actual family but to redefine it as Tessa has done.

Although Tessa is a completely made up creation between myself and a friend, there are many aspects that I mirror.

My family is a rather complicated manner ; the passing of ones truly loved and the suffrage of those who really don’t have my best interest at heart.  Everyone in my life is there on purpose.  When I pour my heart out it means I trust that person with the utmost sincerity and I know that when the time comes I will feel safe in their arms or feel better with their kind words.  They also happen to be the ones that I enjoy numerous shenanigans with whether it’s a wild few days in Vegas, a super awesome concert to remember for ages, a holiday weekend memory, attending a geeked out wedding, or being comforted for the loss of a loved one.  What could be better right?

Tessa has chosen her family.  Not all of them are by blood (ha I said blood.  get it?  Vampire?…*mic check*) but they are completely loyal and that is exactly what she needs to be able to survive in this last book of The Vampire Realm series.  From everything you’ve learned so far I’m sure you would come to the same conclusion.

 

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Mother’s Day is for who again and why?

I know I know I will catch a LOT of flack for this I am sure. Yes I have a personal issue with it over the past few years but that’s mine and I own it.
First and foremost Happy Mother’s Day to you all. ( for those already in that time zone)
That’s out of the way now let me say my thoughts. I’m sure
commercialization has made it 10x worse. But when did it stop being about the love and bond, not to mention fun to be had with the mom and kids(s) ?  You know the cute cards, the homemade or cutely picked out toy wrapped poorly with gobs of tape and a million kisses. 
In today it has become flowers, jewelry, gifts, fancy dinner. Not from the kid but by the significant other. It makes no sense to me (neither does Valentine’s day but I won’t get into that now) how anybody but the children get involved except with a little help.
When the kids are adults there shouldn’t be an unspoken rule for expensive gifts or forced family get together
Motherhood is something to be cherished no matter how the child came about because you love them all the same.
Now that I am done with my frustration, have fun and love the kids and don’t forget Father’s Day next month 🙂

Next step for Drano

I’m clogged.  Maybe its because I’ve been preoccupied. Life has taken a major turn and it is giving me absolutely nothing to work with but a whole slew of emotions.

Emotions….can’t we treat them like emoticons?  And can we not decipher them better? Usually they are a great thing, bringing thoughts to my mind on a certain part of writing.  Unfortunately there is no way for me to write about this.  Maybe, but not sure yet.  

Emma and Melinda/ their story is told up until a pinacle moment.  Ariana/Jason are slowly coming together and I’m liking the direction its headed.

It’s the Tessa part that has me stumped.  I want her on a journey. I want her to do what she does best, research and be determined to find out the truth behind everything, all the while holding down the fort.

A BIG Question.  Some seem to be team Greco and some seem to be team Isaac (thank you Meyers for coining that stupid phrase).  Tessa needs a love.  I know its not a love story, but she needs an anchor.  Isaac, after a traumatic experience, do you think that he can come back as a strong character. I really want him strong.  Not like Tessa, but it is super duper hard.  For those who have read It can give me an opinion, of course spoiler alert attached. But I NEED feedback.